Life is unfair

"Some die hard, 
While some live easily out of it.......

"A life takes lots of pain in giving a life, 
while a life kills it easily with out a pain......

"What's the fair thing that i have seen here...
If at all for a second, beside which there's always unfair things residing.....

"Oh god, let me be a god for while,
If you are making me to think of all these for I cant clean it all by myself....

"Nor, i can be happy living with these unfair things around me being myself.....

"If you think, i am in a search of what i am really not aware of....
then, let me find you for there is none whom i can blame more than you....

-Ravi(R)

Why Good Fails ?

1. Good is the enemy of great – from book called “Good to great”.
   
   
2. Good is outdated for most, it is boring, unattractive, an uneasy going life style & hardly seen anywhere. Even good needs advertising.
   
   
3. There is no proofs or guarantee that doing good deeds will make you end up with having good results or face good all the time.
   
   
4. Good cannot make you happy in this current era unlike bad because good is a bundle of ethical or moral rules which are tough making your life tougher and which would limit most of the things that you like in having.
   
   
5. Good cannot make you productive in a very short time as compared to bad, no matter how much you try hard. It is a law that bad spreads faster than good.
   
   
6. There is nothing like an instant karma in this particular case which could analyze your deeds that you did in a day and provide your results at the end of the day punishing accordingly.
   
   
7. In this current era, Good brings you a different impression that you are coward, failure, a monster, in our language in fact in Indian terms an *item which makes one to get scared to be as good.
   
   
8. The purest form of good or the extreme point of good is god which is hardly known by many educated.
   
   
9. 90% of the people are lenient towards bad as it makes their lives easy going where as a 10% few still stick to their principles fighting against hard lives. This 10% always fails to influence in changing that 90% at any cost.
   
   
10. The failure of educational systems, society, families in teaching the generations more about in being & doing good. In fact they always teach about achieving or being in great than being good.

-Ravi(R)

Am I in Love? – Ravi®

**Star mark: Title has nothing to do with subject. Now a days it’s a fashion to attract right. I just felt attractive/controversial titles get more attention. It’s a kind of marketing strategy, so basically it has nothing to do whether I am in love or not, it’s basically my views on love. You can find some references too under this article. Just conforming before I proceed.

Well, Wikipedia says love is an, emotion, if you dig that emotion again, it says it’s a complex “psychophysiological” experience. If you dig the psychophysiological thing, it’s again a mixture of two things and the more you dig to know it, the more it goes with having no unique answer.

Unfortunately, today most of them don’t know anything about love, for some it’s a joke, for some it’s a shame, for some it’s a just play to get what they want. Today love became a commercial thing, where girls or boys cross verify whether the particular candidate is capable of satisfying their needs( like money, physic, status etc unlike a good heart, matured, honest) before even they get to love which is like again an arrange marriage dealing. In fact these kinds of love are just an advanced version of arranged marriages where they chose their partners by themselves but its not love. I agree that's some what better than parents arranging a partner for you but my task here is to talk about love. So that's not love. They just think that it’s kind of process one must go through to get a girl/boy whom they like the most which is absolutely a blunder thing. Love is not a process to get a girl whom you like.

So many people in history, may be poets, writers, philosophers etc wrote a lot about love but there is no specific form to do it or practice it as I believe that there is no single way to do it, it just happens. There is no definition written in real, all those you read in various books written by various famous people are just feelings that they recognized in them and tried to express it as beautiful as they can through their art but I repeat there is no definition for it. Once it is defined, it becomes finite and I don’t think words like life, love which are infinite can be defined which is quite absurd. In that case, everyone tries to live the same life and love the same way to meet up to that definition which is much more an absurd thing.

Love is something which brings a feel in you which is like a celebration in you which is continuous with or without the presence of a person whom you think you are in love with. Love without expectations is impossible but at the same time our expectations should not ruin the very basic nature of love. Don’t think of meeting up to the above mentioned stupid requirements which most of them try to check in order to get idea whether to do love or not, those kinds are immature stuff.

Even if I am ready to write something in my words about love, then “”it’s just an expression of the experience of the feelings that I felt in my heart being in love”” but not the definition like a scientific theory has one. So don’t just follow someone saying something about love and try to do the way they did. Just be on your own to explore it and experience it. I am sure you will be thrilled to look yourself throughout the way being in it. “I am not here to define the Love. I am here to tell that there is no definition for love. I am not here to tell you how to love but I am here to tell what not to do to be in love. “

Don’t be afraid of getting hurt in love or don’t be afraid that someone is watching you and try to be away of it. You are not doing anything wrong. Life has no meaning without love. It’s the only way through which you can be able to get a feeling that “Live is beautiful”. I agree that, love is impossible without getting hurt, if there is no hurt then there is no extreme experience of love as one has to lose something, somewhere to know the exact value of the thing that you had in your hand.

There is one more thing here i.e. marriage concept which is making most of them to step back thinking that any way we are going to get marry, its waste of love unless you are ready to marry your loved ones. It’s not right. The essence of loving is not to marry and live with your loved ones for ever. It’s impossible as “Love cannot last forever” It’s the feeling that felt lasts forever. What if you never felt love and you are almost on the edge of married life?

I am not going to discuss about love after marriage which is going to be much more controversial thing which is easily criticized by many than trying to understand my way of thinking. So leave for a while about love after marriage which is much more complex.

Love is a celebration that lasts throughout your life, if at all it happens to you, so don’t let it go thinking too practically. If you think practically, you have a least probability of happening love in your life. There is no way you can be happy in being practical may be you can get some comfort. That’s again another big issue, where people are thinking comfort itself is happiness but it’s not. You have to feel it more than to think about it.

I agree, that the hurt you get in this is tough which can ruin your life too, but it’s all about how you take it and build yourself up. It’s not wrong to fall in the state of Devdas but it’s in being there forever. In fact I recommend one to become Devdas to know the extreme love but here there is a tough task in getting back. If you don’t then you will get sucked by your emotions, sentiments that shower sadness upon you forever. If your heart is too weak to handle the state of being in Devdas it’s tough for you to come out.

Love is not about a girl that you love, it’s a feeling that completely transforms your heart and makes you love everything around and in you from the time you felt it. It’s the best thing that can happen to us being born as humans. Trust me, love makes you an artist and live your life to the extent that you never reached it through the best feelings, may be an extreme state of living. So just have a room in you for it, as I said it just happens so all you have to do is to provide a probability for it to happen. Have a room in you for some art, Have a room for someone to hurt you, but don’t hurt back. All the great lovers are the great artists who took hurt in a great way. They just gave room for everything that is good to have. That’s why I always used to say, enjoying sadness is a kind of happiness for the great lovers.

You should not go or fall for someone going on the other side of your track. I believe that love should happen naturally. I mean, it should happen in your way while you were on your journey of life unlike getting away from your way and starting as if it’s something to work on to get which is not right but that'w what most of them do. So just welcome it by being on your own way.

References: 1. Wikipedia 2. My own thoughts and views 3. Love stories of my friends, that I have seen 4. Through some romantic novels 5. The trend of the current generation towards love etc.

-By Ravi®

Rules of Love -- by Ravi(R)

1. Don’t ever try to run behind a girl. The more you run the more they try to run.

2. Never ever try to be honest, for you will be treated as a rash or a harsh guy.

3. Don’t every try to give a call more than twice in any condition, no matter what. If you don’t get response within those two calls, just stay calm until you get a call back.

4. Just try to develop a love which brings you happiness irrespective of your lover’s presence in physical, so that the absence of her will not make you get hurt.

5. Never do things which make her to know that, you cannot live without her which is a dangerous thing. Live as if you are living your life unlike living for someone else.

6. Try to do a thing that brings you happiness which cannot be snatched by anyone. That’s the noble way of being happy.

7. Never try to help such a way that she gets a chance to think that you are doing more than needed which is again a disadvantage for you.

8. Don’t try to touch her or hold her hand by some means when she is angry. Stay far away as much as you can in that kind of situations.

9. Don’t try to praise any girl in front of her for every girl believes that she is the best in beauty and intelligence.

10. It’s must to prepare about how we are going to face the break up situations, which we don’t even give a thought about but it’s a must thing right from the day you fall in love.

--Ravi(R)

"Bar - 9" - Not a Chandini bar

A bar is the best place for the best friends to hang out and have a great time. It’s a place where the hurt ones come to off load their pain as well as the happy ones to celebrate. It’s a different world indeed.

I went to the US 4 years back and returned couple of months back for good to settle here. The moment I landed in U.S, everything went wrong with me no matter what. I tried my level best to keep up myself but still luck never favored me nor did bad luck left me alone anytime. It turns out to be idle case if I speak like luck favors hard workers and prepared ones. I saw, lot of injustice that went with me throughout these four years either it be financially, physically, my dad’s death etc.etc. If I go on tell every sad scene occurred in these 4 years it becomes a pathetic story. Finally, After 4 years of my US life, I was holding 2 masters and 2 lac rupees which I almost spent on buying my bike and something else.

One fine day I got a sudden call from my intermediate (10+2) friends saying that they arranged a get together and wanted me to come. I was so delight and went there. So happy to see my childhood friends in a place called “Bar 9”. They asked me what bear, I told King Fisher strong. That’s it; I never guessed that, it’s going to be the worst beer of my life. You might be thinking how come? Is it bad in taste? No, it turned out slowly as our discussions went on. We always play some game after we are fully drunk, that’s our drunken culture that we practicing from long back. My friends started to play a game. A game where everyone should come up and tell what is their goal in next 5 year and what are the plans that they have to achieve those.

Sounds like a stupid game right after all in a place called bar, that’s the problem when you hang out with the batch of toppers but can’t help as they are my friends. Friends whom I admire more than anything for they been inspiration to me as well as a guide. Everyone told that their goals and plans. Finally my turn came where I had no plans or goals. I told them that, I have nothing but only to live in peace and happiness. I am tired of this race so early getting fucked up enough in this unfair world. Everyone was so confident because they are all well settled in their lives with jobs and some already got married and happy. I am the only odd person there having nothing. Somehow I tried to fuzz something and divert but they kept on asking the same question again and again. I couldn’t understand why they are stressing by asking. Soon a friend of mine whom I feel the great man came front and said, it’s not like that, what we feel is that you should have not picked the option of going to U.S 4 years back. You should have joined the Satyam computers, so that everyone would have been happy and everything would have been fine. We feel that you made wrong step which lead everything go wrong through these 4 years and finally ending up with nothing.

They somehow tried to pull all the sad scenes and bad things occurred in my US journey and tried to analyze and finally concluded that what I did in these 4 years worth nothing but just a mistake. “”They just made me a victim for everything that went wrong so far.”” Strangely, the same guys whom I had a beer with are also there 4 years back hanging out just like the way we hanged out in bar 9. The same guys were holding nothing 4 years back but me the only one holding two offers 1. A job in Satyam computers, 2. A U.S Visa. See, the play of god. That’s thrilling and that’s why I like god for he makes my life more thrilled by making these kinds of strange things happen.

I failed to tell them what I learnt, what I experienced, what I seen in these 4 years but one thing for sure these 4 years might be the tough or the worst or the bad phase of my life but the best which I can guarantee myself. It hurts a lot when your friends judge your life and try to convey a message that you are not successful. After all what is success and how it is defined in terms of human life as a base? None knows as everyone has a different definition. A job, A wife, A car etc etc...Having this is a success?.

Ya, Better someone write a book on “What is success? And what is failure? Like tollywood film hero Mohan babu asked to print a book on “what is legendary and what is celebrity?. lol

In a day, there will be so many things that are out of your hands upon which your actions don’t work but for everything that you work hard to face those kinds of situations you will not be appreciated but called as a failure. That’s somewhat hurting. I always followed my heart. It’s not something which is so easy like it sounds to say. You have to give up lot of things in following your heart, sometimes even the things which mean a lot to you. I don't know whether to call it as sacrifice because you are doing for yourself yet its kinda like that. I bet one thing and want to tell by spreading this article that, everyone who follows their heart will appear as a failure to this world unless you come to watch them with your hearts not but stupid brains.

Finally ending with my own quote:

“There are some problems which cannot be solved throughout life time but only can be balanced and managed.” –Ravi®

My Photography -- Ravi(R)

What if my facebook is my country ?

There was a friend of mine, who always used to be active in participating discussions & debates with me on various social issues as well as on the topics of how to help the society on behalf ourselves? Recently, when I met him on the chat, he said that he removed his facebook account completely for the reason that he got frustrated to see people commenting on stupid things a lot than at least responding to important posts that are related to social issues which are real worth of spending some time to talk and discuss which helps us to turn in to actions. I sensed his pain as I also belong to the same category who always thought why the people don’t respond to any thing that is important but do on stupid things like ‘you see tones of comments praising a girl on her profile picture. You don’t see the same number of comments on any kind of post that is related to social or a good cause and to prove it, I am the sole example who has been tracking the people’s mindset over facebook since couple of years by my postings.

We don’t have to change our country drastically, any small good action that you do is more than enough. Just think for a while, What if my facebook wall is my country? Just assume for a second without any doubt of why we should compare a country to a facebook? Then think. How many are taking part in an important discussion that someone throws on facebook? How many are really cared to read something about social issues? Out of ‘X’ no of friends, how many really comment on those, if they really read? Do they really care for appreciating someone doing something good on facebook and how many of that kind? Does someone support people who do that, if so how many of these kind? Do they comment every time they see a good post? Don’t you think that there is a responsibility in it unless it’s a contradictory issue? What about women in facebook? What they doing? As far as women, I hardly see few taking part which completely blocks off my mind. How this would make them equally sound like men? I leave this question to them by saying that “Men always did dominate every place because of the weakness that women showed.

If you analyze all these questions and come up with answers, it will lead you a place where it will surely gives a small picture of our present country’s status which is exactly similar to this. In real country, the people do the same, they don’t respond to social issues or participate in good cause and those who do are very rare. They don’t appreciate the people who really working for society and they hardly come out to give their support. They always blame someone who doing good, saying that “here comes our hero to change this world”, but no one comes forming groups where they can discuss like a committee and take actions accordingly for a good cause. Now, it’s an unacceptable answer that, you are too busy on your way to recognize these good causes and sense these issues to participate or give support. There are other kind of people who say that, Facebook is like a funny thing where we just connect our friends to have fun and all the bullshit. Now after seeing the revolutions that facebook and twitter lead in Middle East, I don’t think there is a chance for any stupid to say that social media is just a time waste or funny thing.

Being a facebook as your country, how can you make it a best place to spend or live in is as same as how can you make your country a best place to live in? If you know your job over facebook, it’s exactly the same as your role in the real country. If you know what you are doing over facebook, then it is same as what you doing for your country living in it. That’s what I believe and I don’t say that you should skip fun and only do this. All I am saying is to prioritize what actually we need and what we should to get those needs full filled and for sure it’s a great plat form.

The best and greatest thing that you can do to the welfare of society is “to live your life perfectly”. You don’t have to do a great sacrifice thing like our freedom fighters did. We always have choices to make in every step of our life and that’s the only thing that makes you either as good or bad. Finally, if you are really a good person, then I would remind you the greatest message i.e. “The inaction of good is very dangerous to the country than the actions of the bad”. Now whether you are good or bad is based on your choice, which I leave it for yourself.

--Ravi®