**Star mark: Title has nothing to do with subject. Now a days it’s a fashion to attract right. I just felt attractive/controversial titles get more attention. It’s a kind of marketing strategy, so basically it has nothing to do whether I am in love or not, it’s basically my views on love. You can find some references too under this article. Just conforming before I proceed.
Well, Wikipedia says love is an, emotion, if you dig that emotion again, it says it’s a complex “psychophysiological” experience. If you dig the psychophysiological thing, it’s again a mixture of two things and the more you dig to know it, the more it goes with having no unique answer.
Unfortunately, today most of them don’t know anything about love, for some it’s a joke, for some it’s a shame, for some it’s a just play to get what they want. Today love became a commercial thing, where girls or boys cross verify whether the particular candidate is capable of satisfying their needs( like money, physic, status etc unlike a good heart, matured, honest) before even they get to love which is like again an arrange marriage dealing. In fact these kinds of love are just an advanced version of arranged marriages where they chose their partners by themselves but its not love. I agree that's some what better than parents arranging a partner for you but my task here is to talk about love. So that's not love. They just think that it’s kind of process one must go through to get a girl/boy whom they like the most which is absolutely a blunder thing. Love is not a process to get a girl whom you like.
So many people in history, may be poets, writers, philosophers etc wrote a lot about love but there is no specific form to do it or practice it as I believe that there is no single way to do it, it just happens. There is no definition written in real, all those you read in various books written by various famous people are just feelings that they recognized in them and tried to express it as beautiful as they can through their art but I repeat there is no definition for it. Once it is defined, it becomes finite and I don’t think words like life, love which are infinite can be defined which is quite absurd. In that case, everyone tries to live the same life and love the same way to meet up to that definition which is much more an absurd thing.
Love is something which brings a feel in you which is like a celebration in you which is continuous with or without the presence of a person whom you think you are in love with. Love without expectations is impossible but at the same time our expectations should not ruin the very basic nature of love. Don’t think of meeting up to the above mentioned stupid requirements which most of them try to check in order to get idea whether to do love or not, those kinds are immature stuff.
Even if I am ready to write something in my words about love, then “”it’s just an expression of the experience of the feelings that I felt in my heart being in love”” but not the definition like a scientific theory has one. So don’t just follow someone saying something about love and try to do the way they did. Just be on your own to explore it and experience it. I am sure you will be thrilled to look yourself throughout the way being in it. “I am not here to define the Love. I am here to tell that there is no definition for love. I am not here to tell you how to love but I am here to tell what not to do to be in love. “
Don’t be afraid of getting hurt in love or don’t be afraid that someone is watching you and try to be away of it. You are not doing anything wrong. Life has no meaning without love. It’s the only way through which you can be able to get a feeling that “Live is beautiful”. I agree that, love is impossible without getting hurt, if there is no hurt then there is no extreme experience of love as one has to lose something, somewhere to know the exact value of the thing that you had in your hand.
There is one more thing here i.e. marriage concept which is making most of them to step back thinking that any way we are going to get marry, its waste of love unless you are ready to marry your loved ones. It’s not right. The essence of loving is not to marry and live with your loved ones for ever. It’s impossible as “Love cannot last forever” It’s the feeling that felt lasts forever. What if you never felt love and you are almost on the edge of married life?
I am not going to discuss about love after marriage which is going to be much more controversial thing which is easily criticized by many than trying to understand my way of thinking. So leave for a while about love after marriage which is much more complex.
Love is a celebration that lasts throughout your life, if at all it happens to you, so don’t let it go thinking too practically. If you think practically, you have a least probability of happening love in your life. There is no way you can be happy in being practical may be you can get some comfort. That’s again another big issue, where people are thinking comfort itself is happiness but it’s not. You have to feel it more than to think about it.
I agree, that the hurt you get in this is tough which can ruin your life too, but it’s all about how you take it and build yourself up. It’s not wrong to fall in the state of Devdas but it’s in being there forever. In fact I recommend one to become Devdas to know the extreme love but here there is a tough task in getting back. If you don’t then you will get sucked by your emotions, sentiments that shower sadness upon you forever. If your heart is too weak to handle the state of being in Devdas it’s tough for you to come out.
Love is not about a girl that you love, it’s a feeling that completely transforms your heart and makes you love everything around and in you from the time you felt it. It’s the best thing that can happen to us being born as humans. Trust me, love makes you an artist and live your life to the extent that you never reached it through the best feelings, may be an extreme state of living. So just have a room in you for it, as I said it just happens so all you have to do is to provide a probability for it to happen. Have a room in you for some art, Have a room for someone to hurt you, but don’t hurt back. All the great lovers are the great artists who took hurt in a great way. They just gave room for everything that is good to have. That’s why I always used to say, enjoying sadness is a kind of happiness for the great lovers.
You should not go or fall for someone going on the other side of your track. I believe that love should happen naturally. I mean, it should happen in your way while you were on your journey of life unlike getting away from your way and starting as if it’s something to work on to get which is not right but that'w what most of them do. So just welcome it by being on your own way.
References: 1. Wikipedia 2. My own thoughts and views 3. Love stories of my friends, that I have seen 4. Through some romantic novels 5. The trend of the current generation towards love etc.
-By Ravi®
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